Singles, Welcome to 2026!

Hello friends and welcome back to the blog and into 2026! It feels like it came way too fast but not fast enough. First off, I just want to say THANK YOU to all of you who have engaged with and read this blog, whether you're someone who regularly reads each week or you come and go, I'm so grateful. It's been so fun to hear from people who have sent posts to their friends or reach out to me sharing how a post or idea impacted them. Those things are so encouraging and inspire me to continue to share this singleness journey with you.

As I am getting back into the flow of thinking and writing new posts I wanted to share some super practical thoughts to get your New Year momentum going (or to keep it going!). One thing I have learned in my singleness journey and living in a bigger city is that connection takes consistency and intentionality. It's one thing to want connection. It's another to intentionally create it. The books and podcasts can be great for helping us better understand singleness, but how do we actually do this?? So without further ado, here are some of my ideas for singles who are creating in more urban areas (I live in a city so this is my context I am writing from haha):

• Singles, invite people over into your space. Creating your space with intentionality for the purpose of hospitality (See article "Homemaking is for Singles Too" and the book The Gospel Comes With a Housekey). Whether you have a small space for coffee for three or you take over a local coffee shop to meet regularly with people, do it! You can play host too.

• Married people, allow singles into your home regularly to just be there, work, do homework, help with bedtime, come to baseball games, etc. (more than just babysitters lol). Hangouts don't always have to be super polished plans.

• Singles, be consistent with your relationships, time and spaces you enter. I'm not saying daily monotony, but relationships are created and deepened by continuous moments of contact, planned and unplanned. This is hard in cities because there's always something new to do, but needed. Go to the same coffee shop at the same time every Tuesday, go to your community group regularly, go to the same grocery store, pour into existing friendships instead of spreading yourself thin with too many new connections.

• CELEBRATE TOGETHER! :) Married people have built in celebrations (engagement, wedding, anniversaries, etc.), but singles don't. Celebrate the job promotion, the graduation, moving, etc.

• Grieve together, specifically reach out to people you know who are going through a rough time, live alone or tend to isolate.  

• Singles, speak up about your needs, people can’t read each others’ minds! Let people know you want more connection or you’re looking for deeper connection. Clear is kind.

• Singles, when you go into spaces of both men and women, show up first as a loved child of God, not as a single seeking a spouse. Practice seeing people not as options to date/marry but who they truly are first. Don’t commoditize people out of an anxiety to find a spouse(I feel a post brewing with this one ;)).

I'd love to hear some of your ideas! Drop them in the text box at the bottom of the home page or share them with me via email! I'd love to hear from you all!